Being a stay at home mom “SAHM” isn’t for everyone, and I think you either hate it or love it. I absolutely love it and am so thankful for my hubs who works his booty off so I can stay home with Liam. Some days are harder than others, and on those harder days I often think about how much easier it would be to go back to work, just to get a little break. Some days seem endless and some days I count down the hours and minutes to pop open a bottle of rosé, but this time is fleeting and we’ll never get this time again. Liam will never be as little again, as he is today. Below is a guide that I follow myself so keep my sanity while being a SAHM.
Ask for help: As a SAHM, I often felt I had to do everything myself and that because I was a SAHM there shouldn’t be a reason to have someone else watch or help with Liam. WRONG! It’s okay to hire a babysitter or to have the grandparents watch your little ones while you run some errands. I can’t even tell you the amount of times I’ve had a shitty day and would ask Jeff to pick up dinner on his way home. There are days I feel like a superhero and can get everything done and other days I don’t make the bed or wash the dishes. Guess what though? That’s okay, that’s what makes us human. We can’t always do it all mamas! But what you can do, is ask for help when you need it. Sometimes I get overwhelmed, and have to remind myself that help is there, I just need to learn to let go and ask for it.
Get dressed: I still struggle with this daily! At the end of the day it’s way easier to just stay in yoga pants, no bra and a sweatshirt, but I’ve noticed when I stay in lounge wear all day I’m not as motivated. It makes me want to do just hang around the house and not do anything. The saying “look good, feel good” is absolutely true. When I take the time to wash my hair, do my quick 5 minute makeup routine and get dressed I am so much happier and feel so much better about myself.
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Get out of the house: You can do it, I know you can! Even though it might take 10 trips back inside before you grab everything you need and an hour to actually get out the door, just do it! Get out of the house! Even if it’s just for a walk around the neighborhood or to get the mail for some fresh air. Go walk or jog a local park, walk through the mall or the zoo. Anything. You both need it and it’s a great activity to do in between nap times.
Break the rules: Let me first start off my saying that if we were at home for every nap time and home on time for bedtime every night our lives would probably be easier and yes, we’d have a well rested baby at all times. BUT we wouldn’t have a life. Literally, we wouldn’t have a life! I’m not saying you shouldn’t have a routine and stick to it, you absolutely need a routine, but I’m saying it’s okay to break it every now and then. If your friends call you out for coffee during nap time, go! Even if your little one doesn’t nap over coffee, they will nap eventually. I promise, they will nap eventually.
Do things for yourself: You still have needs and desires and you still need to take care of yourself. You need to relax and let loose sometimes without your little ones around. This is a huge one for me, I refuse to give up my social life just because I have a baby. Well, toddler now but I don’t like using that word just yet. Sometimes I’m in desperate need of an adult conversation and there’s no better way to recharge than over a happy hour with girlfriends. Go to that yoga class you’ve been wanting to go to, go to the gym, go wine tasting, go shopping alone. You’re not a bad mom because you have to get away. Taking time for myself makes me a better mom and wife. It’s okay to take a breather. It’s okay to need to take a breather.
These days will be gone before we know it and soon enough our littles ones won’t fit in our laps anymore. So enjoy the time while it’s here. Enjoy today. Take proper steps to make yourself happier which in turn will make everyone around you happier. Happy wife, happy life!
And in case no-one’s told you lately, you are doing an amazing job mama. You are beautiful && you are enough!
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